The Canundrum of Helping Others

Why is it some of us are constantly compelled to help others whether it is with money, emotional support, etc...When knowing that most of the time we would be lucky enough to get a thank you. Also if it is money we are lending, then, of course, we would hope to be paid back the money eventually. Yet the person we were kind enough to lend the money too doesn't seem to realize, that it was a loan and you do eventually want your money back. Then when the person does get some money to pay you back, they, in turn, decide to lend the money to someone else.  When they should really be paying you back the money, which they owe you. So, when do you get back the money you were so, courteous to lend? I'm still waiting to find out that answer. Is there such a fine line between lender and borrower that the kindness of helping someone else financially gets lost and trust goes out the window? When does the borrower decide the money was a gift and not a loan? The lender never told them it was a gift. How come the borrower thinks that it is better to lend someone else money instead of paying the original lender back? Then when family or friendship is in the mix well, that's just a big mountain of problems brewing under the surface. There have been too many times to count when the lending and not returning of money has destroyed family relationships and friendships. Yes, it is just money but with the lending comes to respect and trust. Once those are violated by the non-return of the loan the shit hits the fan and the involved partied better duck because it will definitely hit them in the face.

Then we have emotional support. How many times have you helped someone emotionally only, to later get crapped on when you end up needing the emotional support. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should never help others. Nor am I saying don't help others just to get something in return. What I am saying is, don't you think if you take the time out of your life to help someone that you deserve the same courtesy when you are the one in need of help or support?